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Ghosting has become the go to way to end a relationship. The verb “ghosting” refers to ending contact with someone rapidly and without notice. Usually this happens in an unofficial relationship. We all might not want to admit it, but at one point in our dating lives we have most likely been ghosted or have even been the ghoster. If it hasn’t happened to you please tell us your secrets! And if it has happened to you join the club. According to the Today Show, the dating app “Plenty of Fish” polled 800 participants asking who had been ghosted. 80 percent of those participants revealed that they have been ghosted. Ghosting is a pretty common trend especially with the rise of social media and dating apps.
Imagine you met this girl or guy that seemed perfect. They were attractive, didn’t wait an hour to text back, and always knew what they wanted to eat when you asked them. You decide to spend more time with this person and for whatever reason they just weren’t meeting your expectations. Maybe they were rude to the waiter, had no conversation skills, or just not who you thought they were.
So how do you end it? Plan A: just tell them that you aren’t interested anymore or Plan B: no contact whatsoever. No texting, no snapchats, nothing. Poof! You’re gone.
It’s so easy to just block someone, isn’t it? Which is why you most likely chose plan B. No confrontation is involved. There are certain times when it is appropriate to ghost and times when it’s not. If your date makes you feel uncomfortable or has signs of abuse there is no harm in ghosting. If the person seems truly good at heart but just not your type, politely tell them you don’t see the relationship going any further, they most likely will appreciate the explanation.
If you have been ghosted you may feel hurt and embarrassed but there are positives that can come from it.
You get an answer even though it hurts, you know for sure they weren’t interested.
It becomes clear that the person was not ready. Which makes it easy to move on knowing you would’ve wasted your time if the relationship lasted longer.
You become more observant when it comes to dating, since you have already been ghosted you will be able to notice the signs if they have the potential to ghost you.
